Please forward this error screen to star. If you cheat on someone you’re dating, you don’t love that person. If you are unfaithful, you are not in love. In love with best friend but dating someone else is not a mistake you make when you truly love someone.

And she continues, you simply don’t love or respect that person fiercely enough. If what you are feeling is not helping you evolve, it doesn’t do anybody any good to be stuck in your feels. You meet a person, this may impact your love life down in love with best friend but dating someone else line.

Let me just clarify this for a second, in case you missed it the first time: YOU CANNOT CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. Full disclosure: This article is kind of personal and very preachy. If you are a person who has cheated on someone and still believes you love that person, you’re about to have your ass handed to you. When I bring up this subject in my social circle, it quickly dissolves into a heated debate. Allow me to explain why I am undoubtedly correct when I say that you cannot cheat on someone you love. Let’s start at the very beginning. I should probably note that I’m not a saint when it comes to relationships.

I’m, in fact, a true, undoubted sinner. I believe that my past urge to cheat comes from never really wanting to commit to a relationship — but still selfishly wanting all the benefits of having one. I’ve always valued my independence and ability to do what I want, but I also enjoy having someone to cuddle and go to dinner with. During my bizarre and dreadfully muddled dating history, I’ve been the gluttonous harpy who must have her cake and eat it too. My ideal situation was having my boyfriend wait for me at home while I was off kissing strangers in sketchy dive bars. In an ideal word, my boyfriend would have understood my need to be free. But that doesn’t happen in reality.